So, a bit of background going into this rant - me and my family don't get along, period. I haven't spoken to my father in years, and the last words I said to him were, "Drop dead." (Well, actually it was a lot worse than that, but I'm trying to be polite.) I haven't spoken to one of my brothers in almost as long, and our last conversation was almost the same.

My mother is a domineering control freak of biblical proportions, my brother who lives with her takes every conversation he has with me and turns it into an "I'm soooooooooooooo much better than you'll ever be" power trip and rams it down my throat. And the brother I live with at my grandma's place suffers from terrible bouts of rage and depression, but refuses to get any help because he "doesn't have a problem, it's everyone else's fault!" Between the five of them, I have suffered effectively several decades of abuse, physical and psychological/mental, and they refuse to own up to it - citing that it wasn't their fault or it was beyond their control.

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I just learned that my brother who lives at my granny's has Progressive Multiple Sclorosis (basically, he has an attack, bits of his brain dies off, there's no cure, and no way to reverse any of the damage) and now he wants me, my mom, and my other brother (the one I still speak to on occassion) and him to make up, to forget all past transgressions

My brother has a crippling, incurable disease, and the only thing I can think of is, "What an ignorant bastard!" He wants me to simply forget all the crap they've dished out to me and act as if we're all one big happy family?!

Part of me says that feeling like this is wrong. But is it? Should I not be feeling sorrow and pity towards my brother rather than blind anger? He wants me to simply forget that they've doled out decades of abuse on me, and not be angry...

All I can feel is anger, contempt, disgust... Should I be feeling different?